Incorporating Positive Parenting into our daily routine is not the same for us as it is for mothers of other ethnicities. Our community has a history of fear and control based parenting that is rooted in slavery and a response to systemic racism. Our past is real, but we can’t allow it to destroy our children. Slavery denied our ancestors of their humanity through the use of shaming and both mental and physical abuse. As parents, when we resort to these measures to punish (control) our children, we strip our greatest assets of their humanity.