Spanking, like Sweet potato Pie during the holidays, is a staple in most Black American households. Physical discipline and Pumpkin Pie are both dismissed as stuff white folks do and not given a chance to flourish within our community. With this in mind, it is wise for Positive Parents to prepare themselves mentally for the conversations and attitudes they might encounter during the holidays. If you have a reason to believe that everything won’t be Merry and Bright (or even if you do) keep the following in mind:
1) You don’t have to defend your parenting choices If someone does not like your parenting style, that is okay, we are all entitled to our beliefs. 2) This is not the time to lecture others on their parenting Make merry with family and friends. Unless a family member is harming a child, it is best to not intervene.
3) Remain firm in your beliefs Actions speak louder than words. Don’t deviate from your standards to appease anyone else.
4) Don’t become embarrassed or frustrated when your children exhibit age appropriate behaviors. If someone is interested in child development, offer to email them links or to suggest books on the subject.
5) Accept that people will talk about you behind your back. No matter what you do, someone will find fault.
6) Establish your boundaries and know when it is time to pack it up and go home. You don’t have to subject yourself or your children to unhealthy environments. Why allow someone to tear you down simply because they don’t approve of your parenting philosophy? Your children don’t need the negativity.